This is a very sensitive topic that sends shivers down the spines of many. The social media today is filled with all sorts of stories that make us wonder how intense a man can love a woman and in an instant, it turns to ravaging hatred without mercy.
Some men use their wife as girlfriends and girlfriends as wives. Same with some women, they use their husbands as boy-friends and boy-friends as husbands.
Couples being breaking up since the 1860s, the issue with this Genzie generation is they don't even know the kind of personality they are dating.
Everyone is in a hurry to do almost everything. No privacy to even grieve a love gone sour! People are quick to running to social media once their relationship is having issues, soliciting advice from strangers, very unfortunate in this century.
The truth is; a lot of people have no buisness being in a relationship with some particular people, because they don't even understand their love languages, what drives them and makes them thick.
Compatibility is very key in understanding whom you are in a relationship with in the first place. A lot of people have high expectations that they themselves can't meet up with if tables turn around.
Here are the love languages to know if you can understand and live with another human being regardless of life's challenges.
Quality Time: we all want someone to be there for us and give us quality time, but can we do it for that person? There is no way you can know someone critically without bonding and spending quality time, getting to know their childhood upbringing, this will make you know if this is someone you can ride life's journey with.
Receiving Gifts: well, some can say it's a Gold digging things, it's absolutely not, both men and women we all have different temperament. Some from baby, they are used to getting gifts, e.g. flowers, books, phones, according to our pockets some partners like gifts no matter how much love epistle you say to them, they will feel unfulfilled. It doesn't have to be billions. You can even give a packet of handkerchiefs, it can be as big as a car, or helping them fulfill a long time dream of doing a program. Once you and your partner understand this aspect of relationship, you have really grown.
Act of Service: Going all the way for your spouse, fixing their door, or laptop, or phone. This really matters to some people, once you are not making extra efforts to meet those needs, it would look like you are just there like a doormat.
Physical Touch: some people are used to touch like hugs, touching the eyes, ears, legs, showing concern not by just talking but physical demonstration. Imagine you being in a relationship and your partner doesn't make efforts to touch you, it would seem like he or she doesn't care for you. Especially when you are facing life's challenges that would always surely come.
Sharing life Goals and Aspiration: some people don't care about their spouse's life ambition and career, that's number 1 priority. There is no compatibility if you don't understand your calling in life and work together to achieve greatness together.
Sensual Attraction: this feeling of warmth towards someone you love, is it their eyes, mouth or the way they talk or walk, something must keep drawing you to them, that makes you need them. If not, it's easy to blank and ghost the person in question because there is no connection to the relationship.
Be a Praying Partner: Being a praying partners is the best way to overcoming obstacles and life challenges regardless of your religion. A praying partners is a winning partner. So, Learn to joining hands in prayers with your partner because it creates an avenue to seeking God's intervention in your relationship and promotes a healthy relationship with you and your partner.
Social Media Chats and Relationship should go beyond social media. You should meet one-on-one and kick it off by getting to know whom you are dealing with.
Too many damaged men and women, because they didn't take all this seriously. You can't be too careful, but it would give you less problems dealing with people and letting go when you see the red flag, that the person is not for you.
A lot of people are in shock and finding it hard to relate because they didn't take their time, like they did when they were at the University.
Relationship is hard, but with a lot of work and dedication, it gets easy and smooth with learning to love right. Just be realistic, you will hurt less!
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