THE FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN

That’s the scariest feeling we all have living day in and day out on planet earth, aren’t I right? we fear what we don’t know, what's going to happen next and how do we deal with it and if it’s beyond human reasoning we pray we are able to move on and forge ahead in life.

Everyday its either we drive our private car or enter the public transportation, it depends on which part of the world you are and how your system operate. To do our daily activities, everyone is a suspect - at the bus stop, when you board a bus in Lagos you don’t know if it’s a one-chance bus or a normal bus and don’t know if it’s going to fly into the Third Mainland Bridge LOL! That’s the fear we are talking about. You have to drive carefully you might as well be robbed in broad day light, traffic hit and run is another major disaster. In major cities victims never imagine they will end that way. These are everyday occurrences but on the fear of the unknown – one will we sit in his or her houses in fear.

It’s not always a pleasant situation when you live in a rented apartment that you probably have to see one or two of your neighbors or you build your personal house on the outskirts of Lagos - where civilization is not functioning, you are not sure if people of that particular vicinity are putting fetish substances on your window or in front of your house. All these are real life experiences - you might say “I am educated and don’t believe in such” when setbacks starts to happen to you and your family members you remember MFM, you realize we live in the real world of the good the bad and the ugly.

Imagine a story of a woman who had dreamt of getting married to a nice gentleman, she meet so she thought he was nice and gentle indeed not bothering to study the lifestyle of her so called hubby. Why do some women do that? Its FEAR of losing the man they have suffered hard to get, they want to prove to their enemies that they too can be married. Hmmmn! Women and competition. His HIV status and genotype she didn’t bother to find out. She was inflicted by her so called husband, she has to live with this for the rest of her life and don’t wanna have kids cause she is scared even with the modern technique she is scared her kids will be HIV positive, or what about the woman believing GOD for the fruit of the womb that’s her fear of the unknown. 

In most cases there is nothing wrong – it’s just time. Some slight issues that can be rectified when a woman gets so desperate thinking her husband might go out and impregnate another woman and then decided to follow a bad friend to a white cloth wearing so called dada wearing Pastor and they keep doing incantation and ask her to drink and rub substances on her private part and he ends up sleeping with her - what a disaster! There are many cases of people who waited on God and are mothers today.

Fear of the unknown is man’s greatest problem - it drives us human to act before thinking instead of thinking before acting. We all are waiting for a miracle to happen in our lives either small or big. It’s there in us we want it and crave for it and when it’s not working the way we planned it then it can be our downfall. Imagine a woman scared of losing her husband and insults every business partner the man have and destroys his business prospect. What if her husband now decides to divorce her because of her attitude, what he never intentionally never had in mind.

We need to use our 6th sense when handling life issues with a delicate hand. We need to do the best we can. Your tomorrow is your today, worry and think less and do what’s best for you and your future, so whatever cards life throw at us, we have to handle and live with it the best way we can.